Comments on: How to Stop Anger from Damaging Your Career, Family Life and Spiritual Health https://productivemuslim.com/stop-anger-damage/#utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=stop-anger-damage Meaningful Productivity That Connects This Life With The Hereafter Thu, 15 Aug 2024 04:58:12 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.6.2 By: Oosman https://productivemuslim.com/stop-anger-damage/#comment-272914 Sun, 15 Jul 2018 08:26:38 +0000 https://productivemuslim.com/?p=16457#comment-272914 In reply to Aditya.

Hi. I’m really glad you formulated these statements. Most people don’t, and they end up blaming everybody for the bad choices they make in life.

The idea is to keep formulating them. Keep asking _what_ makes you angry, but go one step further. Dare to _question_ these statements. You don’t have to be like everybody. Live by what you think is right, not by what _they_ want you to think is right.

When you say “it’s not fair”, *why* should it be? You can’t expect everybody to be good. You just have to accept reality and deal with it. Because you can’t change people. That’s beyond your control.
But if you do get angry, ensure that your anger causes a *positive* change, and not more destruction and broken hearts.

See, questioning and problem-solving are skills, and it’ll take an eternity to teach you all of those. But what’s essential is that you keep digging deeper inside your thoughts. Write them down. See if they make sense. When you say some people are partying and you are working, *because of that* you should be partying too, does it make sense? I mean, *why* should you party _because_ they are partying? Because you should be doing everything that they do? But why?

At the end of the day you should stop seeing it as _your_ fault. Because nobody is born intelligent. It is a lifelong process. So keep learning and challenging yourself.

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By: Amina https://productivemuslim.com/stop-anger-damage/#comment-272631 Sun, 15 Jul 2018 08:23:44 +0000 https://productivemuslim.com/?p=16457#comment-272631 You will Choose up the very nice topic.This article increased my knowledge. Now I think I will again live my life as normal. Thanks for giving this information.

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By: Ridwan Hassan https://productivemuslim.com/stop-anger-damage/#comment-268284 Thu, 14 Jun 2018 01:53:47 +0000 https://productivemuslim.com/?p=16457#comment-268284 So insightful I recently was fired from Amazon I’m only 18 and in university. I was depressed for a week or so

Its not even that one co-worker tried get me fired by complaining about me twice only one month in to my role. I said some bad things about him behind his back to my work colleagues I felt bad after and the sack came.just like that

I managed to obtain 2 jobs however both dealt with pork and alcohol so left immediately with the will of Allah(SWT)

Alhamdulliah i have a trial with Cafe nero this week. Wish me luck I succeed.

Moral- Don’t give up and keep trying and Allah will eventually send down his mercy

And abstain from Haram wealth please bros and sisters. Fear Allah as he should as nothing but bad comes from it.

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By: Ridwan Hassan https://productivemuslim.com/stop-anger-damage/#comment-272911 Wed, 13 Jun 2018 21:53:47 +0000 https://productivemuslim.com/?p=16457#comment-272911 So insightful I recently was fired from Amazon I’m only 18 and in university. I was depressed for a week or so

Its not even that one co-worker tried get me fired by complaining about me twice only one month in to my role. I said some bad things about him behind his back to my work colleagues I felt bad after and the sack came.just like that

I managed to obtain 2 jobs however both dealt with pork and alcohol so left immediately with the will of Allah(SWT)

Alhamdulliah i have a trial with Cafe nero this week. Wish me luck I succeed.

Moral- Don’t give up and keep trying and Allah will eventually send down his mercy

And abstain from Haram wealth please bros and sisters. Fear Allah as he should as nothing but bad comes from it.

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By: Oosman https://productivemuslim.com/stop-anger-damage/#comment-263848 Mon, 07 May 2018 05:54:11 +0000 https://productivemuslim.com/?p=16457#comment-263848 In reply to Aditya.

Hi. I’m really glad you formulated these statements. Most people don’t, and they end up blaming everybody for the bad choices they make in life.

The idea is to keep formulating them. Keep asking _what_ makes you angry, but go one step further. Dare to _question_ these statements. You don’t have to be like everybody. Live by what you think is right, not by what _they_ want you to think is right.

When you say “it’s not fair”, *why* should it be? You can’t expect everybody to be good. You just have to accept reality and deal with it. Because you can’t change people. That’s beyond your control.
But if you do get angry, ensure that your anger causes a *positive* change, and not more destruction and broken hearts.

See, questioning and problem-solving are skills, and it’ll take an eternity to teach you all of those. But what’s essential is that you keep digging deeper inside your thoughts. Write them down. See if they make sense. When you say some people are partying and you are working, *because of that* you should be partying too, does it make sense? I mean, *why* should you party _because_ they are partying? Because you should be doing everything that they do? But why?

At the end of the day you should stop seeing it as _your_ fault. Because nobody is born intelligent. It is a lifelong process. So keep learning and challenging yourself.

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By: Aditya https://productivemuslim.com/stop-anger-damage/#comment-263798 Sat, 28 Apr 2018 11:25:18 +0000 https://productivemuslim.com/?p=16457#comment-263798 Assalamu alaikum. My name is Adit, I am college student and right now I am doing thesis as my final task in college, “Anger” is something i never know how to handle it, I heard about something saying “it’s bad if you let it pent”, and there are some thought “you can get angry cause why you must do it all while your friend enjoying their private time and you burdened with the task and that is group task too”, “you don’t deserve to be treated like that”, “why you must silence”, “why when I silence they want me to speak and act?”, “they will take advantage of you”, “it’s not fair”, and “I am cursed ?”, I seek to Allah , but before i know it maybe bit late, and I am always hindered by many tasks, strange thought, and left alone. Dear Brothers if anyone read this , I would be thankfull for the rest of my life if someone help me.

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By: Aditya https://productivemuslim.com/stop-anger-damage/#comment-272912 Sat, 28 Apr 2018 07:25:18 +0000 https://productivemuslim.com/?p=16457#comment-272912 Assalamu alaikum. My name is Adit, I am college student and right now I am doing thesis as my final task in college, “Anger” is something i never know how to handle it, I heard about something saying “it’s bad if you let it pent”, and there are some thought “you can get angry cause why you must do it all while your friend enjoying their private time and you burdened with the task and that is group task too”, “you don’t deserve to be treated like that”, “why you must silence”, “why when I silence they want me to speak and act?”, “they will take advantage of you”, “it’s not fair”, and “I am cursed ?”, I seek to Allah , but before i know it maybe bit late, and I am always hindered by many tasks, strange thought, and left alone. Dear Brothers if anyone read this , I would be thankfull for the rest of my life if someone help me.

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By: Mehroon https://productivemuslim.com/stop-anger-damage/#comment-263695 Thu, 22 Mar 2018 08:31:49 +0000 https://productivemuslim.com/?p=16457#comment-263695 Brilliant article! If I feel that anger is setting in, I’ve been taught to immediately describe my feelings by saying….
When ____________ happens I feel_____________. If necessary, to the person or if not then just to myself. It’s like I’ve given my brain something to chew on. I calm down immediately when I have ‘logic’ restored. Hilarious, but Insha Allah someone benefits.

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By: Mehroon https://productivemuslim.com/stop-anger-damage/#comment-272903 Thu, 22 Mar 2018 04:31:49 +0000 https://productivemuslim.com/?p=16457#comment-272903 Brilliant article! If I feel that anger is setting in, I’ve been taught to immediately describe my feelings by saying….
When ____________ happens I feel_____________. If necessary, to the person or if not then just to myself. It’s like I’ve given my brain something to chew on. I calm down immediately when I have ‘logic’ restored. Hilarious, but Insha Allah someone benefits.

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By: Monique Hassan https://productivemuslim.com/stop-anger-damage/#comment-263671 Wed, 14 Mar 2018 13:38:45 +0000 https://productivemuslim.com/?p=16457#comment-263671 In reply to Hamza Khurshid.

Absolutely, self-awareness is the key to progress for many concerns such as anger, anxiety or a lack of productivity.

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