after his love spell my lover returned to me and he has been so faithful to me…

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I can understand you at some level…. But do not blame the writer. Being in pain myself, I know that it is necessary to allow yourself feel sad – to cry even. But trust me when I say this, She wrote all this out of empathy. Remembering death does not make it worse. It is supposed to ( Speaking for myself) make the pain a little lighter. Knowing that this life is not the end. Knowing that we will one day be reunited in some way, or Maybe Allah will remove all my worries when the day comes. Death makes this life feel a little less heavy. It tells us that its okay to be sad, but its not the end of the world. The end is yet to come, you need to prepare yourself for that. Death in a way, justifies what we lost. It reminds us that nothing lasts forever. and Allah says to never despair.

Notice that you are allowed to feel sad. You can cry as much as you want. This article is not about that. But when you get tired of missing someone, when you feel like you have mourned it enough or when you want to stop thinking about it, you want to move on but you cannot, then come here and read it again, it will make more sense.

If I tell you my story, I had been trying to move on for years. There came a point when it was just unbearable pain, and no matter what I did, I just couldn’t let go an emotional attachment. and that is where this article comes in. It empathizes with you but at this point, other than empathy we need cure. A way to deal with the pain. What do you feel when there is absolutely nothing you can do about the people you miss or you cannot let go?
It makes you feel vulnerable doesn’t it? do you wish there was something you can do?

I don’t know what you are going through but there are two ways to deal with pain one is self destruction and one is self improvement. I am not saying that you should improve yourself. But pain can dealt with in a productive way. It can help you get closer to Allah. and that is itself a hidden blessing.

I hope it all helps and I hope that what I wrote, makes sense.

“Remember death”
We waste time trying to understand our pain, we waste time being in pain. Honestly this is absolutely deplorable advice at the moment of such a traumatic event in someone’s life. I pity your lack of empathy. I understand where you are coming from but don’t scare people who are going through pain you are only increasing their burden. It is quite non- Islamic to not weight your words. I respectfully do not think you have in this article even if you meant to do good. In my humble experience and my humble opinon you are just hurting peolple. Some things are better left unsaid.

Althought it is a mistake that I fully admit: (I speak for myself here) but I do not believe you realize that there are some people that actually have invested themselves so heavily in someone and their families and attempted to make everything work out for a marriage, especially in this day and age, through honesty and humility and they would wish for death instead of loosing that relationship. Yet unfortunately they have lost the relationship.

I guess to your eyes I was an idiot for being honest and I am commiting a sin for wallowing in pain. When my very religion has created a pathway that helps families twist the mind of men who want to get married and show them that they are worth nothing. Thank for telling us to get married quick and not tell us about the reality of divorce and it’s cost for men.

I swear there is no empathy in this ummah I wish the Prophet wa salat wa salam could come back and teach you tolerance and the ability to speak with empathy.

You are honestly the people that I have the hardest time to maintain respect for, why do you need to be so brutal with your words without paying mind to how it affects others.

I am honestly shocked that you started with that, while you are at it why don’t you say: “You know what remember suicide may have been an option but it is haram so yeah just bear with the pain but be quick about it because Allah will chastise you for taking too long to process it.” Astatfil’lalah!

Great way to start an advice, great pep talk.

I am sorry sister but I would not want you as an advisor for my children if I ever get some.

Perhaps your faith is stronger than mine but I sure do not wish to strenghthen it after reading the first paragraph…

The article speaks truth. Humans were created weak and i have realised how weak and feable man is and how dependant we are on Allah now that i find myself in such a sorrow state…. Only Allah can take me out of it…