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If I could offer you some advice, a person who gets easily angered often has had some type of difficulties in his/her earlier life that have made them this way, it is possible that they have been let down a great deal in their younger days by a parent or other loved one which would result in anger at the very idea of being disappointed as an adult. It is often helpful to understand this and reflect on it so that you can both empathize with them and also remove the personalization from their angry episodes, basically, learn to tell yourself that while they are angry, it’s really not about you at all. Open communication during a period where your spouse is not angry is also extremely important… Let your spouse know that you truly aim for his happiness but you need for him to be open and clear with you so that you can do what it is that will make him happy. You should also take that opportunity to let him know what makes you happy, but remember to make it about YOU and not his shortcomings. You don’t want to say “your anger really hurts me”, rather give some positive statements like “it makes me so happy when….”. Men are mentally programmed to want to make us happy even if it’s not always evident, and feeing like they are failing is often a trigger to anger so be conscious of your wording and when addressing your own needs, make sure to note some examples of times he has made you happy with that specific behavior rather than pointing out his shortcomings which believe me, most human beings are already aware of whether they admit it or not.