Comments on: Empathy in Marriage: How to Connect Emotionally with Your Spouse

By: Zainab

Zainab — Thu, 24 Jan 2019 08:22:41 +0000

Asalamu alaikam,
I am the first wife, my husband took a second wife a few weeks ago. By the Qadr of Allah, I was the one who mentioned her to my husband and helped them both to marry. Me and her were friend’s for years prior to her marrying my husband. Now we don’t want to communicate together as we are co- wives.
Trouble is my husband now spends every time he has free at her house and I am left heartbroken and insecure. I have found no benefits in ‘polygyny’ except that the husband gets more intimacy.
Allahu musta aan!

By: Sadia baig

Sadia baig — Sat, 29 Jul 2017 19:22:22 +0000

MA SHA ALLAH you expresses your thoughts wonderfully by reading these suggestions which can bring happiness & cheeriness in some’one marriage life

By: Farhana miah

Farhana miah — Mon, 23 Jan 2017 06:56:22 +0000

Assalam walikum Sr,

What should I do if my husband does not understand empathy?

By: Alia

Alia — Mon, 28 Sep 2015 16:10:50 +0000

In reply to Naima.

Salam aleykum Naima, I felt sad when reading your comment..I’m not a professional, but what if you tell him and share with him your feelings. Tell him kindly that your dream is that you help each other to satisfy Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala by being an exemplary muslim couple, and that you want to be a support and a source of tranquility for him. Share with him some of the behaviours of the prophet Muhammad (s) with his wives and also some of the behaviours of the wives of the prophet Muhammad (s) toward him, then ask him to help you in trying to be like these perfect wives (the mothers of the believers) by communicating more with you, calling you and sharing with you his days, his thoughts, his problems…Tell him to try at least to do so for the well-being of the couple and the family which is the base of society, and for the sake of Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala. You have to make him understand in the most gentle and wise way the great importance of the relation between husband and wife in Islam and how Islam encourages us to live mercy and empathy inside our couples…
Finally my dear sister, make dua to Allah, specially in the last third of the night. It is He alone who can change what is in your husband’s heart.
Again I’m not a professional in this issue. I just shared what, in my lacking point of view, could help insha’Allah.
May Allah grant you patience and make your couple to be full of love, mercy and empathy. Amin! Amin!

By: Naima

Naima — Fri, 18 Sep 2015 03:38:45 +0000

Very nice post sir
But I want to discuss with U my case
I got married 1 & half year ago . because of job we live 1400 km farway . I frequently visit my husband place .but never find any intimacy from his side .he is also a religious. & I also discuss with him , he replied that he is not a warm kind of person. There is very very small things he never do for me , he never call me never msg me for months.I m very sad by his this kind of behaviour. He never invite me on his place , and the limit is , on this eid he passed by my city & didn’t even inform me.I m very sad . praying Allah for help.
Please suggest me what to do ? How to create intimacy between us?
Please suggest. Jazak Allah

By: raghad

raghad — Wed, 19 Aug 2015 23:18:44 +0000

Great article ma sha Allah sheima dear jazaki Allah khair and all the best :)

By: Shah

Shah — Wed, 19 Aug 2015 09:16:26 +0000

Salam, how do you suppose to empathise when you husband is unnecessarily talking to opposite gender and showing aggression as soon as you ask them why they doing what they doing. The response is always this is who I am. I want my husband to be guided and choose the right path but how I don’t know. FYI-he isn’t flirting it’s just he thinks it’s ok to communicate and be friend with opposite gender.

By: Sheima Salam Sumer

Sheima Salam Sumer — Tue, 18 Aug 2015 15:14:35 +0000

In reply to Amina H.. Wa alaikum as salam warahmatullah wa barakatu Sis. Amina, Thank you so much for your kind words. Ameen to your beautiful duaa.

By: shubbun Azmi

shubbun Azmi — Tue, 14 Jul 2015 19:02:54 +0000

In reply to Sheima Salam Sumer.

Indeed a true one
As couple we must realize this and do sharing n caring making our lovely marital life more lovely n stronger.
Jazak Allah khair

By: Amina H.

Amina H. — Mon, 22 Jun 2015 08:40:41 +0000

Assalamu’alaikum warahmatullah sis Sheima;)

Your article is very helpful and very inspiring…I relate so much of your advise and really it makes me feel so blessed. May Allah(swt) guide us always and bless ol ummah w/a beautiful marriage;)