Assalam alai kum Sister Lara,

the answer to your question is right there in the Quran.

“And lower to them the wing of humility out of mercy and say, “My Lord, have mercy upon them as they brought me up [when I was] small.” ( Surah Al Isra :24)

Do good and be patient and seek the reward from Allah swt. No matter what they say, we shouldn’t answer back. yes it is going to hurt and sting but it better to be patient and continue to do good, seeking Allah’s help to do so and also the reward .

You never know , the patient and good attitude might encourage them to actually embrace islam.
And we should never forget, ” at the end of the night, there is a beautiful dawn awaiting us”. in sha Allah.:)

help can also be sought from therapists. Sis Haleh Banani from Dallas offers consultations .

i pray that i was helpful.
jzk
Sana

Getting up during the night and asking Allah whatever it is we need for ourselves and our children is the best we can do. For years now it has become a practise with a lot of parents, and Algamdulillaa, we can see that Allah in His infinite Mercy and Wisdom hears, sees and knows everything. Always put your Trust in Allah, for surely He never disappoints anyone. We must just have that Sabr and Perseverence and be Consistent in our prayers and sacrifice, In Shaa Allah