Comments on: [Productive Teens – Part 1] How to Deal Effectively with Peer Pressure and Bullying https://productivemuslim.com/teens-part-1/#utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=teens-part-1 Meaningful Productivity That Connects This Life With The Hereafter Sun, 15 Jul 2018 14:06:23 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.6.2 By: palmtreegardens https://productivemuslim.com/teens-part-1/#comment-285389 Sun, 15 Jul 2018 14:06:23 +0000 https://productivemuslim.com/?p=5938#comment-285389 In reply to Lucas.

Welcome into Islam, Lucas :-) May Allah continue to guide you and your son!

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By: palmtreegardens https://productivemuslim.com/teens-part-1/#comment-285391 Sun, 15 Jul 2018 14:06:23 +0000 https://productivemuslim.com/?p=5938#comment-285391 In reply to fatema.

Well, that really depends on your situation and the issues at hand. It could be an idea to brainstorm a list of possible things to say in your situation(s), and go over it with someone for feedback
Maryam Mujahid

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By: palmtreegardens https://productivemuslim.com/teens-part-1/#comment-285390 Sun, 15 Jul 2018 14:06:23 +0000 https://productivemuslim.com/?p=5938#comment-285390 In reply to imayoungmuslimah.

Salam alaikum. Thank you for sharing your experience. Facing bullying, being left out and ignored is definitely very painful, and I applaud you for having the courage to keep wearing your hijab in this situation! Is there really no one you can talk to (not necessarily a teacher) to vent your feelings and get support? I hope you will find the next article on bullying helpful inshallah.
Maryam Mujahid

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By: palmtreegardens https://productivemuslim.com/teens-part-1/#comment-285388 Sun, 15 Jul 2018 14:06:22 +0000 https://productivemuslim.com/?p=5938#comment-285388 In reply to Sumayah Mohamed.

Jazakallah for your comment Sumayah, good advice :-)
Maryam Mujahid

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By: palmtreegardens https://productivemuslim.com/teens-part-1/#comment-285351 Sun, 15 Jul 2018 13:56:12 +0000 https://productivemuslim.com/?p=5938#comment-285351 In reply to imayoungmuslimah.

Salam alaikum sister. Thank you for sharing your experience. It’s hard to cope with being bullied, ignored and left out. I think you’re very courageous to wear your hijab despite this situation, mashallah! Is there really no one you can talk to (not necessarily a teacher)? I hope you will find the next post about bullying helpful!
Maryam Mujahid

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By: Zeshan https://productivemuslim.com/teens-part-1/#comment-279774 Sun, 15 Jul 2018 09:38:53 +0000 https://productivemuslim.com/?p=5938#comment-279774 This is such a beautiful article..I have no words to explain the beauty of this write up. It covers so many things and the advice can be applied in so many aspects. I needed the advice regarding dowry. After reading this, m feeling so confident, my view and concept is clear now. Feeling great. My sincere prayers for Maryam Mujahid.

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By: Ammara Shafiq https://productivemuslim.com/teens-part-1/#comment-279773 Sun, 15 Jul 2018 09:38:53 +0000 https://productivemuslim.com/?p=5938#comment-279773 it is true

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By: muhammadh salman https://productivemuslim.com/teens-part-1/#comment-279778 Sun, 15 Jul 2018 09:38:53 +0000 https://productivemuslim.com/?p=5938#comment-279778 In reply to imayoungmuslimah.

I just want to leave some advice to you sister.
1) u said that u were being bullied in a row of three years. In my view u should not allow this anymore and go for a solution asap. Because one day it could turn away from ur hijab life as the bullying demotivates u (May Allah protect u and help u). Because saitan will try to use u when u are weak. But Alhamdulillah it’s great to here that u are still firm and continuing practice islamic guidance! That’s great! I really Appreciate u! Masha Allah!!

2) here is my TIP TO OVERCOME the above issue.

A) make sure u r ‘posture’ is so fit and confident in front of other people (especially people who bullying u). This makes them feel, if they were to bully u they will be responded in a bad way (though u won’t do so).
I’ll give u a good example for this. Have u ever notice, when u looks at a police in the road, (if u were driving or some drive ur car) though the driver has all the license and everything. If they were to be stopped by the police they will show a fearful or so patient relply (like an innocent) for the question of the police. Still he has all the statutory licences. Ahh! This happens because of the (police men) ‘suit and his/her APPEARANCE’. That makes them powerful actually than the normal person.
As the same way u can see the people who comes from TAX AUTHORITY. Seems to be dominant and powerful. So there fore u can follow this insha Allah.

B) if they were to talk anything about ur hijab, as the article suggest (so intelligently). DO NOT JADE(justify……..). Say with a SMILE ‘I think u better mind ur b/s’ DDR so and so!
C) this is important. U would have noticed when u are with non muslim friends bullying. They will most of the time do so by questioning things in our religion islam. Something like polygamy and all.
Here there are two ways,
First as a muslim we are in the state of answering or give idea about our religion to them. But the sometimes start to bullying by using the reasoning it self. So therefore u can answer a question up to a level, and if u NOTICE that they are trying to bully. U can stop answering at that point and ask them to do their own research if they really want to know the answer. And move any other topic, it’s like showing that u r no more interest to answer!

Second, when they question (with a bullying intention). Rather u answer there question.u throw some question to them.
Fot ex- in your case if they are being asking ‘why do u wear hijab?’. U ask them ‘Why don’t u wear hijab’? And what does ur religion says about it and so on?
And in future insha Allah they won’t b able to bully u anymore. And they will understand ur smartness..

May Allah bless u sis. And keep u firm!

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By: Sohail https://productivemuslim.com/teens-part-1/#comment-279777 Sun, 15 Jul 2018 09:38:53 +0000 https://productivemuslim.com/?p=5938#comment-279777 Jazakallahkhair aunty Maryam.
Masha’Allah The advise is very good especially the JADE part. i could relate to it however in my school there is a lot of group politics. I hang around a large group, (not through choice) mainly for “safety in numbers”. Some group members are good, other not so. How do i make the situation more halaal without upsetting my friends or isolating myself. JZKHAIR.

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By: Az_Zubair https://productivemuslim.com/teens-part-1/#comment-279775 Sun, 15 Jul 2018 09:38:53 +0000 https://productivemuslim.com/?p=5938#comment-279775 In reply to imayoungmuslimah.

SalaamAlaikum sister , Donot feel bad with whats happening because at the end of the day its all about you and your belief let them ignore ,you keep in mind that Allah is not ignoring you .
“… And We are closer to him than his jugular vein(by Our Knowledge)” Surah 50 Ayah 16.
So sister keep up the spirit and walk like a queen you are unique. So dont lose Hope.

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